Asking for It

So I'm thinking about how I need to ask for what I need. Ask and you shall receive. (Don't ask, don't get.) I keep telling the Boss how much I like to be told what to do during sex. It really turns my crank. But it isn't always happening. (Read practically never.) So tonight, on our walk, I told him how much I need it. 


We'll see how much each of us has learned how to listen. 


And if this doesn't happen, what am I being told?

Learning to Listen

So the Boss was trying to help me to get some things done today. I had made a comment this morning about how something wasn't done, and that it should have been a week ago. So this afternoon, he was gently reminding me to do it. I was making excuses. He was working through my excuses. I finally said, "You need to push me." and so he did.

We are both learning to listen.

Respecting his abilities

So I was reading this about respecting your husband or HoH:

Need #2: Respect his abilities.

Men often need to figure things out for themselves and if they can, they feel like they’ve conquered something and are affirmed as men. So… next time he is trying to put together the new shelf from IKEA… don’t try to help him (unless he asks)!

and I kinda struggled with it, because I'm the one with the mechanical engineering degree, and I am very very good at doing things like putting together Ikea shelves. He is usually the one to let me do it on my own.

Leadership

So I asked the Boss lastnight, "Do I let you lead?"

He replied "You always give me the opportunity to so."

DD or just plain pain

S0 I tried to see what was salvageable from the DD part of our relationship. I went back to a forum I used to post to, to see what was happening. I am not sure why I didn't keep going back to that forum; I did get a good welcome there. I think my need for DD is not so strong as I thought is would be. My need for erotic spankings are pretty strong though. I asked the Boss for a spanking as well. I still wish that the Boss would take charge more during our lovemaking, but I am learning to deal with it. (24 years and counting of learning to deal with it.) What I am doing is telling him more explicitly what I want. "Squeeze my titty. Squeeze it real tight. Oh yeah, that's right." and then I moan with a combination of pain and pleasure. If I see satisfaction on his face, then I get more pleasure out of it. Maybe I am more of a pain slut than I realized.

Thanks for listening
Sereena